This is obviously partially a vent piece.
So me and Markus want to live a childfree marriage. I am Tokophobic and have been bothered by quite a few people lately about it. Even seeing a belly is really upsetting for me. It's not a "ew gross" It's deeply uncomfortable for me. I feel physically ill just seeing pictures and tend to avert my eyes. And the idea it could happen will give me panic attacks and nightmares about me ripping my stomach open. It mortifies me, and it's been a real problem for me to deal with. For me I almost equate it to death, it really is that bad. This is by far one of my top fears, everything considered. It's a horrible thing to go through and when you get asked about kids... it just sucks. Because at least in europe, childless lifestyles are arguably a bit taboo. And saying we don't want kids is a jarring thing to say here, and sadly a lot of people think it means "Nobody should have kids". So we just kind of bite our tongues and just say things like "No not yet" and such.
In Austria, there is this tradition(?) where, when a couple is at the hospital and going through the labor and such, your family, friends and co-workers will put up a bunch of storks and tie them to your house. Here are some pictures photos.app.goo.gl/y5B2WhePeyag… .
Which, we don't have a problem with. I have no issues with others wanting kids or anything. If you actually want kids, this is rather cute and a nice way to show support and it's kind of sweet the whole town is in on it. But when we participate... we are ripe for the "When are you gonna get some" questions. And of course, being child free it's just a bit awkward feeling? I dunno. We just don't "Get it", and that's fine, we don't have to. We are happy to support and such ^^ (No baby sitting though lol)
So... we both just have unsettled feelings towards seeing storks on peoples houses. At least for me personally they are a bit ominous, and generally an unwanted reminder of general tokophobic stuff.
So have a vent piece of us chasing those darn storks off.